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- National Debate on Child Protection[1] where 48 Parliamentarians support him
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The Pedro Family: five children snatched by Lincoln County Council - without paper work 
Lincoln social services also removed my child illegally. I have court documents to prove it. I asked for 2 weeks respite after multiple bereavements and the GP decided to stop my meds and I got withdrawals. They offered me respite at any time as I was a good mum. Well I foolishly took it and I regret it to this very day. I was assured they keep families together and don’t worry you won’t go to court. Well I think they say this to get gullible,vulnerable fools like myself to trust them. My child became withdrawn in care. He was nearly 3 with a speech delay. I was worried about him and knew he thought id abandoned him which was why he was sad. Anywhere after nearly 3 weeks I decided to take him home. I asked the SW to call my cpn as he said withdrawals were over and I was fit to have my son home. The children’s act says you can take your child home if they are in voluntary care. I told the Sw this and asked her to call my cpn. She never once spoke to that team which is against all procedure. She then said I was being assessed for my lack of bond and attachment which I wasn’t aware of and was stunned quite frankly. Like any reasonable person I told her that he was not happy in care and he thought I had abandoned him. Imagine my horror when she said you are ignoring professional concerns about your lack of bond. I said to her ask the previous SW she will tell you and its in the records I have a spectacular bond. She dismissed me and laughed and said the old sw says you said you didn’t want your child anymore. When I said ask the other profs who know me and say im a lovely mum she laughed and she replied they are spinning you a line. All these people backed me in court incidentally. I said in taking my child. I cant prove I have a bond whilst hes in care and unhappy. I took him. There was cctv and they unlocked the door we went out calmly and gently.
I gave her her dinner when I got home and she played with her new toy. She was back to her normal self. Then i got a knock at the door and I told the police please go away hes eating his lunch. They threatened to break down the door. I was terrified.I did try to get them off but Lincoln police weren’t interested in talking sensible. They arepart of the problem. My mother tried her best to explain but they said we cant say what we think if them we have to do what they tell us. This is not true as in my complaint they said its solely the polices decision. Obviously the police have an unwritten rule to obey SS. But its not legal. My old neighbours today who witnessed all this
Say it was shocking and disgusting. I found out later that they told the police i had stopped my meds and made out I was a loony without them. Now the police if they were professional would have rung my Doctor or cpn like I asked them to. They would have found out the pills were mild anti ds and sleeping pills not drugs for serious mental illness
i have not been on meds since that time so hardly a lunatic.If the police hadn’t taken my child I SS would have had to apply for Epo over 3 days which they wouldn’t have got as withdrawals had gone and I was fit to look after him. The police are part if the problem. Court docs reveal threshold criteria for removal wasn’t met. They tried to make me out to be harmful that didn’t work do they tried to use I was danger to myself as I fought the police to stop them taking him. My cpn was horrified and said what evidence did they have. I said none. They seem to make it up as they go along in these courts. I got a 27 page report with nothing positive in it from a SW and her manager who clearly hated me. Even though I had been polite and submissive with them. I had known this Sw all of 2 weeks if that. She was still going on about this lack of bond despite previous sw confirming we had strong bond. S recent national article from a whistleblower in the press said these phoney attachment concerns are being used to split up families when they haven’t got evidence of harm. This is quite common and many parents have to go through this.
I went through a court hell wondering if id lose my child over nothing. A second sw team came in and Guardian saw what they were doing. My barrister said they were making a case out of nothing to cover their backs over this illegal snatch. It caused intense trauma to my child and me. Id had 4 bereavements that year. I didn’t have time to grieve and I was hurled into a hell i hadn’t envisaged that all happened so quickly. Some people including complaints investigator blame me and say I put him in care. I say no I took the respite on offer. I didn’t think they were this crazy. I do hold myself responsible and wish id done things differently. I did beg the GP not to mess around with the meds after the bereavement but fell on deaf ears.
The bad sws did everything to wreck my family but he come home after 2 months and the sws were criticised in court. The damage was done. My boy had separation anxiety for 2 years and it affected him badly. Myself I had to have trauma treatment that war veterans have. I was reliving the experience with intrusive thoughts and recurring nightmares for years. This is post trauma. The manager was such a nasty bully to me that I had recurring nightmares of her without her face. Yes I am vulnerable and if you have a sick mind then its fun to watch nervous Nelly here jump through hoops and see her distressed in court and watch the retard squirm and grovel for her child back. Its a good craic. You can really get off on it if you are a bully with no conscience.
For many years I had a really strong fear of people in authority. SS boast they strengthen families and keep them together. My and other peoples experience does not reflect this. In fact making families collapse is a better description in many cases.
The complaints system is a farce. They are not grateful that you raise concerns. You are treated like the enemy and treated accordingly. This again was again long drawn out process which was traumatic. And the hostility towards me was very strong. I learnt that the independent investigator was going to be the Nottingham complaints officer. Si I turned that down. The next one didn’t want my sws names in. I didn’t know why until I found out that another body I had sent my complaint to would not investigate without the names. It was a farce. My complaint only got somewhere when it was out of their hands. They should admit liability instead of it being dragged out. They were found guilty of failings. The letter was sent to my old address and cheque for 1250 -250 for the way my complaint was handled. I never got this money but for the great harm and impact it had on us doesn’t even cover the cost of the counselling. The social worker disappeared to the next county. The manager stayed and tried to make out she wasn’t really involved and tried to weasel herself out of it. This woman had a serious effect on me. Its ok for people to say she is a nothing. But these ‘nothings’ have power to wreck your life forever so you never see your child again.
The foster carer said she was unlike other children she had had. Well adapted and not destructive and she could see he had been brought up well. He was cute,attractive,intelligent and undamaged. There is talk in the national papers that these children are liked by adopters. Indeed SS one year won a best practice award for meeting adoption targets. I believe they wanted to smash my family because they didn’t like me but the other reason could be the above. In sorry that they disliked me but I don’t think I should be punished and lose my kid purely on their personal opinion of me. No ones perfect and it should be based on if you a good mum or not. I have heard from friends who work with SS that its often based on like or dislike of the parent who gets to keep their child. Baby P’s Sw liked her and said she would make sure she didn’t lose P. I just feel it becomes personal in some sws views.
I was portrayed as being totally incapable and incompetent. Ive not had 1 referral in 8 years so hardly unable to cope. Yet I could have lost my child on this perjurous nonsense. My case could have easily been one of injustice.
I have heard of single mums crying every night because they asked for a little bit of help from SS and lost their child. I fear some of them may be injustice as i know one has a friend who actually worked in child protection support who says she shouldn’t have lost her child. He reveals further things to me which I wont reveal but fit in with my theories.
In my apology they apologised for distress caused. That they should have given us temporary support.that they have revised procedures and there’s preventative work done. Blah blah. The usual insincere spiel that Ss around the country spew out when theyve been found out. If they were genuinely sorry they would have listened to me in the complaints process,not treated me like dirt. The complaints system is impossible to deal with. Obstructive,unpleasant. You are criticised for not writing your complaint out correctly. As if there is some magic formula that you have to know but never told what it is. So they get you to re-write and re-write. Then they try to make it as minimal as poss. People don’t need this stress after going through care proceedings. Someone said their sw has numerous complaints against her. Yet obviously nothings being done. Ringing and Telling someone they have court proceedings on the same day so they have no time to prepare and get a solicitor is underhand and not on. Unfortunately unless you know of tactics that will be used you cant prepare for it.
It deeply saddens me that people are still being treated as shabbily as me. Clearly no lessons have been learnt.
At the very least people should be told that there is a risk that they can lose their kids. Stop telling people we keep families together. It doesn’t work like that its down to the individual sw and their manager if they want to support or not bother.
Throughout the country parents should be warned anything you say can be used in court against you. Every thing should be taped in my opinion so there’s no misinformation to the court. I would advise everyone to get a solicitor if they seek help from Social services as it can become a court matter so quickly. My advise is to record every session. If the SW is unhappy with this then concerns must be raised why? Look at the procedures on the childrens services site. Look on the family rights group website where they have list of procedures social workers should adhere to. If a sw says don’t worry we keep families together run a mile. Lol no only joking just protect yourself. Use your common sense and if taking any respite seek legal advice.
Your story gives me the idea to collect them from comments on this site and present them to ‘high places’… I still am wondering whether ‘everybody knows’ or whether there are just a few bad apples in strategic posts and locations…
Parents are coming together in areas, collating their stories of bad practice,workers. It’s just so hard because there is so much corruption throughout the SS depts throughout the land. They have far too much power.Although I was lucky in the fact that certain court officials did their job -in many cases the courts just go along with what social services want and rubber stamp everything. Courts are too quick to allow social workers nonsensical unproven opinions to progress a case and allow illegal orders. I was told if my case had got to district court it would have been thrown out but they said it could be dealt with in a magistrates family court. These are unqualified laymen so how can they apply the law and that’s why it drags on.They are also more biased as they are unqualified so err on the side of caution. A corrupt social workers dream. We wouldn’t have been harmed significantly if it had been thrown out. They are all in denial how traumatic care proceedings really are. There’s a lack of empathy even in the good workers. They just don’t see us as having the same feelings for our children as them. Or think we can go through the process like they do on an every day basis without being affected. Care proceedings are frightening and horrible. People throw up beforehand. Its common for parents to suffer post trauma stress from it. Even if you get your children back. So many people are reporting the same symptoms. I for many years feared the post and answering the phone. I would get horrid reports about me. Basically lying about my parenting ability. Just like a Sun expose on a celebrity. Not based on reality. Just exaggeration,opinion,innuendo and twisting things people have said and ignoring the vast amount of positives.
After they illegally took my child I was summoned into the SS headquarters. The manager sat making notes with another grim faced SW. I was made to feel like a criminal. Spoken down to and treated like dirt. I now know they were in the wrong not I. She rang me and told me you will not see your child for a fortnight. No consideration for my child and that he may think Ive totally abandoned him. It seemed to be about punishing me and being vindictive as they could and using my child as a pawn in her power games.
On another occasion she rang me up to order me to come to the office and get a rail card. There was no please or politeness. I normally would buy my ticket and get refunded later. It had never been a problem. In the end I said I love my child I don’t mind paying for my own travel. She was surprised and put off guard and then she came back and said come to the office that’s the way we do things round here. Really getting off on frightening vulnerable mothers. I was inconsolable and in tears in the counselling session in which she had rung me. This left me with a fear of phone calls and letters.
This is such a common experience throughout the country and its clear unsuitable people are working in social services and using it to abuse their powers and get off on bullying.
I saw one woman on tv. Her case was one of injustice. She got PTSD so badly from her case that she had to leave the child in foster care, when she could have gone home as she was cleared.
I felt I had no power in that court whatsoever. Its a battle between social services and the Guardian. I have a friend who was a family lawyer and they feel they have little power to fight in court. So basically if the Guardian isn’t on your side you are doomed. One feels totally impotent. Many people say their Guardian just sided with social services. Most of them have worked for the local authority as social workers. My experience of them was good. As the courts seem to work on opinion and not threshold criteria or law then its easy to lose your children. The appeals service in the high court is just pitiful. No justice for parents there.
The thing that really concerns me is how good well meaning parents can be harassed by social services and driven to hell and back. I’m talking nationally here not any specific LA. Whilst really unsuitable,in some cases dangerous parents,seem to have social services round their little finger and keep their children.
A common theme is women losing their children because they were in a violent relationship, social worketrs citing that they failed to protect from domestic violence,even though the women got out. Yet the children go to the violent partners. So if these women are guilty of failing to protect from an abuser then why do the kids go to the actual abuser. That would mean the courts are failing to protect. Its bizarre logic and I think its down to misogyny. I know of 2 instance in South of England where the kids are at risk because of this bizarre placing with the abusive parent.
Social services have a problem getting decent staff. The NSPCC say they were passing social work students who should have failed their exams due to pressure from above. So you get incompetent people causing harm to very fragile vulnerable families.
As Judge Munby said the courts aren’t fit for purpose. They don’t take any notice of the law. There’s mass cases of injustice due to bias towards social services. Then no recourse. No money for appeals or not being told how to proceed. If parents want to go to the papers to rescue their families they are gagged. The public normally have more common sense on these matters. People can go to the papers and not name their children so all this trying to protect a child’s identity is all a smokescreen to hide the unfit state of the system. Hypocritically the child’s identity is plastered all over the TV and in adoption magazines and parents say they are still fighting for their kids in court. So when desperate parents reveal the identity to stop greatly wanted children from being adopted they receive threats from the LA’s and gagging orders. No such thing when they do it. Which proves they are not bothered about revealing a child’s identity-they just want to stop a parent from from using all the tools they can when they feel the courts have not delivered justice.
These adoption targets don’t help. Their focus then goes on finding young cute undamaged children who adopters prefer,than older damaged children. Which is why John Hemming says there are so many cases of injustice happening.
ITS ALL IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD THOUGH. When they harm the children then they are not bothered and nowhere to be seen.
Thank You, Maria!
It’s this hypocrisy that outrages me, too.
We each have to fight in our own way and, hopefully, some of us manage to work together and become more and more effective…
Lincoln Social Worker Emma Wailen also snatched my son Alex from school behind my back based on fabrications. And 8 years later I now find her husband has been arrested for a Criminal Offence!
http://metro.co.uk/2008/06/27/party-mum-jailed-for-leaving-toddler-home-alone-224146/
This case happened around the time of our abuse. Other articles say social services closed the case even though they said the child was at risk. They said the mother was going to college so the child was being looked after in the day. Common sense would dictate that the child needs care in the evenings and at weekends which is when this happened.
It just made me so annoyed. That they spent do much time and money on non cases like mine so they don’t have any time to spend on genuine children at risk. Ive been told by experts that a child becoming withdrawn and unresponsive in care is a sign of a good bond. If the child has no bond then the child wouldn’t change because no bond would be normal for the child. I had this off 2 Doctors. As ive said it was in the records that I had a good bond in fact it said spectacular. Plus previous sw told everyone who asked that I had a good bond. So why make a fallacious case costing 50.000 at least to get my case in court when there was kids like this who needed the time and help rather than try to destroy a living family and traumatise us needlessly with this lack of attachment crap? Someone I know who worked with families said they would be heavily involved with nice families who were doing well and yet the violent druggie type people who he reported to SS as their kids were at risk they would ignore. Its more fun for them to bully caring parents and I think some social workers (lets say nationally) are sociopaths.
http://www.eastlindseytarget.co.uk/Louth-man-caused-fractures-seven-week-old/story-17792257-detail/story.html
In this case a care plan has been put in case to keep family together.
Again you see violent people given chances whilst loving mothers are put through hell and back and some lose their child/ren. It often cited that child is at risk of possible future emotional harm. Which is a euphemism for they actually haven’t done any harm. Normally asking for a bit if support at a time of stress or help with Childs behaviour..
http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-lincolnshire-23011244
Heres another one. But when these cases happen social workers say “damned if we do damned if we don’t” Therefore playing the sympathy card and making themselves into victims.
Again its down to bad judgment and spending too much time on breaking up loving families. ie wrong cases get to court. Wrong people losing children.
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